Infidelity

Whether it was a physical affair or an emotional affair, the heartbreak and feelings of betrayal from infidelity can be devastating. Learning of partner betrayal can be traumatic. PTSD is not uncommon. Each partner will need immediate support, and we do the best we can to get you in right away, even if we need to stay late or come in early. The good news is there is hope for you. We have found that most couples are able to work through the pain from infidelity and stay together. Perhaps most importantly, those who stay together are able to rebuild their relationships to be better than they were before the discovery of the betrayal!

Path to Infidelity Recovery

The days and weeks immediately following the discovery or disclosure of infidelity can be some of the darkest days that many couples will ever experience. Getting help immediately by a compassionate and experienced couples counselor can be a tremendous source of support and comfort. During times like this, having a couples counselor for both of you to lean on and get guidance from can be the difference-maker.

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Rebuilding Trust

Our goal at The Cannon Institute is to help couples heal from what can feel like an insurmountable betrayal. There are stages that most couples experience following infidelity, and there are processes we have to help you work through each stage.

As we work with you through the each stage of healing, you will learn what went wrong, how you got to where you are, and what needs to happen going forward. Rebuilding trust will be at the core of our work.  

Who to tell? Generally speaking, the fewer people who know about the betrayal, the easier it will be to save your relationship. Your friends, family and co-workers will not be going through the healing work with us. Once you tell others, you can’t “un-ring” the bell. Do you have one or two trusted friends you can share with and get support from? Do you already have an individual therapist that you can talk to? How about talking to one of our therapists right away who can be a confidential outlet for your pain? And by the way, if you have already told everyone in your social circles, that’s okay too. Our therapists will compassionately support you wherever you are, with whatever you need.

The primary job for both of you right now is to care for yourself and each other. Are you eating, sleeping, and drinking water? Are you getting fresh air, walking, exercising and getting sunshine? Are you drinking more alcohol than usual? Are you suicidal? These are all common experiences for couples when there has been a breach in trust. 

We are not an emergency service; however, we are a group of deeply caring people. We will get you in as soon as humanly possible. Most folks in your situation have never contacted a crisis hotline and don’t know what to expect. The truth is, most are really helpful, and you don’t need to be suicidal to get support. Here are some options for you – The Suicide & Crisis National Hotline: Call or Text 988. Colorado Crisis Line: Text 741741. 

Do you need something to read until we can get you in? Try a strength-based book, such as: After the Affair, Third Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. Spring. 

As painful as infidelity or adultery can be, you don’t need to go through this on your own. We have seen countless couples rebuild  their relationship and into something much stronger and better than they ever thought possible. We have had many couples tell us things like, “I would never wish this journey on anyone; however, now that we are on the other side, it is the best thing that ever happened to us because we are happier than we have ever been.” Most of the couples we work with survive infidelity, and that’s one of the reasons there is always hope.

During this first stage, you may very well be in crisis. We will work together in an effort to help you calm the storm and restore a sense of normalcy. The crisis stage lasts a different length of time for each couple.

Our therapists at The Cannon Institute have been trained for treating trauma and understand the stages couples move through to heal from infidelity.  

Don’t wait any longer, book your 20 minute free consultation here.